Impostor Syndrome Strikes

Nov 6, 2018Stories, Video



Feel like you're the dumbest person in the room because that's a smart place to be, but also realize you're in the room for a reason and share your thoughts and opinions.

Hey there, it's Monica and I actually have this kind of fun camera setup today. Oh, look, totally like a tripod and everything because we were at our event in Nashville. It's a Closers Cafe black level event and it's been so much fun. There have been so many people here that are just incredible. So many people. And I think that what was interesting is at the end we were all talking and one of the guys, he was sitting there. He's probably, I mean, everybody's brilliant, but this guy's like mad-scientist brilliant. He gets numbers and he loves spreadsheets as much as I do. I always think he's super awesome. But he was like, “Oh, I just, you know, I feel so intimidated in here.” I was like “Really?” He's like, “Everybody is so smart.” And it is a room full of super smart people.

And I just wanted to share that with you because I think that two things, first of all, put yourself in a room where you are feeling like the dumbest person in the room because that is a good place for you to be. You'll learn stuff. I learned a ton over the past two days and my head is super full. I've been at events for five solid days now. In completely different events, like big, huge- AskLive to,10 entrepreneurs here and it's been just so amazing to talk to so many people. Put yourself in a room where there are people smarter than you on a regular basis because if you are feeling stupid, that means that you're going to learn because you're going to be in a position where you're open minded. I find that sometimes if I'm talking to somebody and they don't get me or I think that they don't have anything to teach me. I don't listen when the truth is that they probably do have something to teach me if I would just pay attention.

But that doesn't happen if I'm in a room where there's a ton of people who I think are like, whoa, crazy smart. So put yourself in that room and feel a little dumb. Get used to feeling uncomfortable if you want to be an entrepreneur because we do it a lot. And the other thing is, is that realize that you're in the room, that means that you are supposed to be there and that you have a voice and that voice has something important to say. So if you get that little thought in your head that's like, “Oh, but I think this.” Say something. Say it politely. Don't be rude. Don't be like, “You're wrong.” But definitely just be like, “Well, I'm not sure if I agree with that.” And say why or if you want to be a little more bold, just be like, “Well, that's not right.”

I actually did that at Perry Marshall's roundtable and other places that I put myself in a room full of smarter people than me all the time. And, one of the big experts that he brought in was saying something. And I was like, “No, don't do that. Just don't do that. That's a bad idea.” And here's why. Because I had already had some experience that this guru did not have. He didn't have the same past I did. He didn't have the same experiences. So don't always feel like you're, I mean, feel like you're the dumbest person in the room because that's a smart place to be, but also realize you're in the room for a reason and share your thoughts and opinions.

I also want to show you this fun video setup we got going on here. I'm going to take this off. Hold on. It's going to get a little crazy. Look at this. Look at this. Look at this crazy setup. Well, there's Tabitha. Say Hi. And then there's this big thing. So this is the video production that was going on. See that big light and then the tripod that we like rigged up for my phone because that's for a real camera, right? And now here I am in the pretty light, ooh. Okay. Anyway, so I just wanted to show you, we do some video stuff at our events and what that looked like behind the scenes. So I hope you're having a great day. Say Hi in the comments and I'll chat with you tomorrow. Bye.